For Husband and Wife ( Day 5 of 18 )
JUST SHARING (from the “Couple’s Devotional Bible”)
This article’s author: Dr. John Trent
Bible Passage: Genesis 45:1-15
Key Verse: Genesis 45:5
“… do not be distressed and do not be angry with yourselves…”
We are told in Genesis that “a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife.” Yet if they come out of an unhealthy family background, that is, an upbringing that may have included alcoholism, verbal abuse or other chronic problems, they will have a hard time following this biblical mandate.
My dad was an alcoholic, and my parents were divorced. I never met my father until I was in high school, and then I hated him for many years after that. When I became a Christian, I knew it wasn’t right to feel this way, so I buried my hatred. But when I got married, the strong negative feelings were still there, and they started to surface and poison my relationship with my wife. It wasn’t until she confronted me about the way I was treating her that I began to work through the real issue – my unresolved anger toward my dad.
I harbored a lot of hatred toward my dad, but in resolving those feelings, I learned a real lesson in forgiveness, and that in itself has been a priceless gift. It broke the unhealthy cycle and opened the way to begin a healthy cycle of family relationships.
• How has forgiveness been constructive in your own marriage?
• What issues in your relationship might be resolved through forgiveness?
Additional Scripture Readings: Genesis 2:24; Exodus 20:5; Isaiah 61:1, 3