Sexual Differences

For Husband and Wife ( Day 8 of 18 )
JUST SHARING (from the “
Couple’s Devotional Bible”)
This article’s author: Jim Smith
Bible Passage: Song of Songs 7:1-13

Key Verse: Song of Songs 7:10

“I belong to my lover, and his desire is for me.”

Men and women bring two different sets of expectations to the way they view sex. Studies indicate that a woman’s libido rises and falls according to her twenty-eight-day ovulation cycle. The typical male, on the other hand, has sexual thoughts every few minutes. I tell couples, women especially, that sometimes they will need to offer the gift of availability to their spouse out of love and sensitivity to their partner’s needs (1 Corinthians 7:5).

Most women place a higher priority on romance and affection than men do. Not that men don’t want these things too, it’s just that they don’t usually rate them at the top of their needs list. And both approaches are valid. The senior pastor of our church used to describe sex like eating: Sometimes you sit down to a gourmet feast with candlelight, soft music, seven courses. Other times it’s a snack on the run. Neither would be healthy all the time.

Spouses need to be realistic about their sex life and willing to accommodate each other’s desires. Granted, not every sexual experience is going to be equally satisfying and fulfilling for both partners. But good communication helps ensure that you know what your spouse wants in bed. And it keeps sex from becoming mechanical.

MARRIAGE BUILDERS

How do your expectations about your sexual life seem to be different from those of your spouse?

The pastor uses the metaphor of eating for sex. Because of busy lifestyles, couples increasingly only have time for that “snack on the run.” When was the last time you and your spouse had a “gourmet feast”?

Additional Scripture Readings: 1 Corinthians 7:3-5; Proverbs 5:18-23

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  1. “Most women place a higher priority on romance and affection than men do. Not that men don’t want these things too, it’s just that they don’t usually rate them at the top of their needs list. And both approaches are valid. The senior pastor of our church used to describe sex like eating: Sometimes you sit down to a gourmet feast with candlelight, soft music, seven courses. Other times it’s a snack on the run. Neither would be healthy all the time.”

    ABA.. tama yan.. akoy pumapanig dyan.. naku itay ibibida nga kita minsan sa mansion ko.. hehehe.. ang ganda kc ng mga quotable quotes mo dito.. mraming matutulungan ito.. pag nbasa pa ng iba.. awww!
    hiramin ko minsan dito ha.. hehehe

    homebodyhubby: buti pa talaga ikaw anak — may mansyon na… ako hanggang mansyon ng daga pa lang!
    lugi akyen nekosyo dito sa blag! wala musyalo kita
    pak ikaw selmon lang! 😛

  2. galing klasmeyt. may significance sa bible. astig.

    tama. sex is like food.
    kasama na nga ang sex as physiological need. hehe. la lang.🙂

    namiss ko dito klasmeyt!

    homebodyhubby: klasmeyt yeye! 😀 …o di ba?😎

  3. amen to dat😀
    jan ako talagang alang kontra😀

    but rili, how impt. sex is in marriages?
    tho it may nt be d most impt factor, it rili is (i think) a very vital one.. esp. sexual compatibility (wc pde daw cguro i work out by talkin’ it through??😀 )

    homebodyhubby: importante!:mrgreen:

    hindi lang naman kasi for procreation (o pagpaparami ng lahi) ang sex — for enjoyment din, BUT with the opposite sex and within the confines of marriage (that is what the Bible says — God totally abhors sodomy/lesbianism and adultery).

    nung wedding day namin, may pinahiram na libro sa akin
    ang officiating pastor namin:

    Intended for Pleasure

    (of course dami na ko “alam” bago ko pa man nabasa yan:mrgreen: ) sa “Sulu hotel” ko kinunan yan, after the first honeymoon night namin ni misis (huwag you na pigtawanan yung white jockey – yan uso nuon😆 )… bible-believing Christian ang author ng book kaya scriptural ang perspective at approach.
    ang akala ng iba, napaka-conservative at super ‘bato’ na ng mga born-again pag dating sa sex… hindi ah! mas contented pa nga kami dahil we can enjoy doing it without guilt. 😀

    re compatibility, of course naman! very transparent kami
    ni misis sa isa’t-isa — grabe kami kung “magbastusan.”
    sempre term lang naming dalawa yan dahil sabi ko sa kanya, wala namang ‘bastos-bastos’ sa mag-asawa. 😛

    “The man and his wife were both naked,
    and they felt no shame.” (Genesis 2:25)

    just between the two of us — no secrets, no guilt
    (not only with regards to sex). 🙂

  4. I found out the hard way from leaving a 12 yr marriage and discovering that the pasture isn’t greener on the other side, it’s more scary than ever, my husband and I reconciled and are communicating better than ever through the help of a christian marriage counselor, Couples need to keep communication open and dating alive. Intimacy lost is hard to regain but it can be done. I want to share a couple of links couples might enjoy. Thanks, Helen Marie
    http://anderson62.couple.hop.clickbank.net/
    http://anderson62.300dates.hop.clickbank.net/
    http://anderson62.ssch01.hop.clickbank.net/

    homebodyhubby: thanks for sharing your testimony,
    Helen Marie.🙂 and the tips and links, i really appreciate that!

  5. […] Eto ang testimony ng isang commentor ko nuon → walang greener pastures […]


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