For Husband and Wife ( Day 16 of 18 )
JUST SHARING (from the “Couple’s Devotional Bible”)
This article’s author: Jim Smith
Bible Passage: Malachi 2:10-16
Key Verse: Malachi 2:15-16
“Has not the Lord made them one? In flesh and spirit they are his. … do not break faith with the wife of your youth. ‘I hate divorce,’ says the Lord God of Israel…”
Divorce can happen to anyone. But rather than fear divorce, we should learn valuable lessons from the divorces of others and then use those lessons to strengthen our own marriages. Good marriages take work. You can’t just coast, and you can’t take each other for granted.
When you’re tempted to consider divorce as an alternative, you need to realize that the grass isn’t greener on the other side. Every marriage has problems, and exchanging the marriage you have now for another relationship is almost always a losing move.
It also helps to deal with your unrealistic fantasy images of marriage. Marriages cycle from enchantment to disenchantment when the fantasy dissolves and you hit reality. At that point, people either end their marriage or they get to work on some hard issues and gain some maturity. We need to work toward the goal of maturity in our marriages.
Finally, we need to watch out for societal lies about happiness. Our cultural norm is “whatever makes you happy is good.” But the truth is, anyone who seeks happiness as a prime object is setting himself up for an enormous disappointment. Happiness is never obtained when that is your prime object.
• Why is it impossible to obtain true happiness when you make it your prime goal?
• How have you worked toward the goal of maturity in your marriage?
Additional Scripture Readings: Matthew 19:3-9; 1 Corinthians 7:10-11