The Law of Inevitable Sequence*

Reading David’s story and watching my friends fall has led me to one conclusion: Moral collapse is rarely a blowout; it’s more like a slow leak — the result of a thousand small indulgences. Very few people plan an adulterous affair; they transition into it.

It begins with attraction. It’s not lust as much as infatuation that brings us down. We’re drawn to someone sensitive and understanding, someone who listens and seems to care. We’re seduced by that attraction and led on by subtle degrees.

Attraction becomes fantasy: We imagine ourselves with that person and the feeling is good. Fictionalized affairs always seem so right. That’s their fundamental deception.

The fantasies soften us, and our convictions erode. We’re then in a frame of mind to listen to our longings, and having listened we have no will to resist. We cannot escape the realization of our predominant thoughts.

Then there are the meetings and the sharing of inner conflict, marital disappointment, and other deep hurts. And with that sharing, the relationship begins to shift. We’re suddenly two lonely people in need of one another’s love.

Then comes the inevitable yielding, and with that yielding the need to justify the affair. We can’t live with the dissonance. We have to rationalize our behavior by blaming someone or something else — the pressures of our business or the limitations of our spouses. Others’ wrongdoing becomes our reason. Everything must be made to look good.

But our hearts know. There are moments when our wills soften and we long to set things right. If we do not then listen to our hearts, there comes a metallic hardening, and then corruption. Our wrongdoing mutates, altering its form and quality, evolving into dark narcissism and horrifying cruelty. We don’t care who gets hurt as long as we get what we want.

And finally there is inevitable disclosure. First we deny: “There’s no one else!” Then we dissemble: “It’s only platonic.” And finally our deception is shouted from the housetops. There’s no place to hide from the light.

When our seams have been opened and our evil deeds have been exposed. God reminds us of His cross, His forgiveness, and His incomparable grace. Then He begins to make us new. But there’s only one way to know that forgiveness: acknowledgment of the awfulness of one’s sin and that old-fashioned word, repentance. We must hate what we’ve done, and turn from it in disgust.

That’s what Paul calls “godly sorrow (that) brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret” (2 Cor. 7:10). Ungodly sorrow is the sorrow of being found out, or of suffering the consequences of being found out. The result is intensified guilt, anxiety, and hopelessness. Godly sorrow, on the other hand, is sorrow over sin itself and the harm that it’s done to others. Godly sorrow asserts itself to set things right.

Here’s the way Paul put it: “See what this godly sorrow has produced in you: what earnestness (to obey), what eagerness to clear yourselves (of wrongdoing), what indignation (against evil), what alarm (that we might fall into sin again), what longing (for purity), what concern (for all those damaged by our sin), what readiness to see justice (righteousness) done” (2 Cor. 7:11).

As David himself learned, “The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, 0 God, You will not despise” (Ps. 51:17). God discerns the possibilities even in our defilement, forgives our sins, counteracts our mistakes, and sets out to make us better than we’ve ever been before.

Therefore, rather than mourn our humiliation, we must move on. Sin may have consequences with which we must live for the rest of our natural lives, but sin repented of can only work for ultimate good. God takes the worst that we can do and makes it part of the good He has promised. He’s the God of fools and failures and the God of another chance.


▲ “Cut-and-paste”…

Hindi ako ang may-akda.

Opkurs amo, obyus naman.

We jus travol bak intaym.


*Concluding words from the booklet
David & Manasseh: Overcoming Failure
based on a portion of “A Man To Match The Mountain”
by David Roper

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The Next Chapter after the Last

The epitaph says:
“Here once lay JESUS CHRIST. He died for the sin of the whole world.
Died: 33 A.D. ROSE AGAIN: 33 A.D.”

Ito ang lead essay mula sa isang aklat na may katulad na pamagat.
(The Next Chapter After The Last. Chosen and edited by Harry Verploegh.
Copyright 1987, Christian Publications, Camp Hill, Pennsylvania

The Next Chapter after the Last

by A.W. Tozer

The four gospels tell the story of the life and ministry of Jesus, and in so doing, they follow accurately the ordinary course of biography, giving the facts of His birth, growth, work, death and burial. That is the way with biography: the very word itself suggests it, for it comes from bios, life, and graphein, to write, and means the written history of a person’s life. So says Noah Webster.

Now, when we look at the Gospels we note an odd — and wonderful — thing. An extra chapter is added. Why?

(This is about the Greatest Story. CLICK this to continue reading.)

Only Begotten Son

For YOU (Good Friday Bonus)
JUST SHARING (from the “
Couple’s Devotional Bible”)
This article’s author: Nate Adams
Bible Passage: John 3:16-21

Key Verse: John 3:16

Jesus said: “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”

I was shaving when I heard a crash in the bedroom. The full-length mirror that was leaning against our bedroom wall must have fallen. Then I heard Caleb’s scream.

I flew around the corner to see a zillion pieces of broken mirror on the floor – and Caleb, my 19-month-old, lying in the middle of it. Then I saw the blood.

The sight of my son’s blood overwhelmed me. I snatched him up and scanned his body. Though the glass had been scattered all around him, the only mark was a small scratch on the inside of his left ear. Only a trickle of blood flowed, so it was apparently more fear than injury that was forcing his tears.

The interesting thing about this little crisis is now I can’t read, hear or even think of John 3:16 without remembering Caleb lying in the middle of that broken glass. That most familiar Bible verse had become much too familiar, even trite to me. But now when I hear it I get a lump in my throat, thinking about what kind of determined, redemptive love could be strong enough to let an only Son cry out in pain on a cross.

A few months after Caleb’s accident, our second son was born. I no longer had an “only begotten son.” But as I experienced the joy of a new life and an expanded family, I realized in a fresh way that it was Jesus’ death that made it possible for the Only Begotten Son to have many brothers and sisters.


How does having children, of your own affect your perception of God’s sacrifice of his only begotten son?

How has sacrifice been part of love in your marriage relationship?

Additional Scripture Readings: Romans 5:8-9; Hebrews 9:20-28

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Ang Parol ni TATAY

17 July 2007

Sunset view from my western window (Starburst effect by Corel PhotoPaint).

Pasensya na po uli at ingles ito. Hayaan nyo muna, tutal maiksi lang ito. Hindi kayo magsisisi, pramis.

Ito ay isang artikulo hango sa 2003 Christmas Edition ng Our Daily Bread na pinamagatang “The Gift of Christmas” ng Radio Bible Class Ministries, Grand Rapids, MI 49555-0001

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The Star in the Window

by Martin R. De Haan

During World War II it was the custom in the United States for a family who had a son serving in the military to place a star in the front window of their home. A gold star indicated that the son had died in support of his country’s cause.

Years ago, Sir Harry Lauder told a touching story about this custom. He said that one night a man was walking down a New York City street accompanied by his 5-year-old son. The little fellow was interested in the brightly lighted windows of the houses and wanted to know why some houses had a star in the window. The father explained that those families had a son fighting in the war. The child would clap his hands as he saw another star in the window and would cry out, “Look, Daddy, there’s another family who gave a son for his country.”

At last they came to an empty lot, and a break in the row of houses. Through the gap a star could be seen shining brightly in the sky. The little lad caught his breath, “Oh, Daddy,” he cried, “Look at the star in the window of heaven! God must have given His Son too.”

Yes indeed! There is a star in God’s window. Do you realize what He did for you? Because of God’s love for us, He gave His Son, Jesus Christ (Ephesians 2:4). Have you thanked Him?

For God so loved the world, He gave His only Son

To die on Calvary’s tree, from sin to set me free;

Someday He’s coming back, what glory that will be!

Wonderful HIS love to me. — Smith

(Copyright Renewal 1966 Singspiration, Inc.)

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O, ano na kaibigan? … ‘Dumugo ba ang ilong’ mo sa english nito? 😆 Hayaan mo na… Siya nga ibinuhos ang LAHAT NG DUGO alang-alang sa IYO.


Many give their lives for their country,

But Jesus gave his life for the world.


“ For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son,

that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”

(John 3:16)

“ For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith —

and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God — not by works,

so that no one can boast.”

(Ephesians 2:8-9)