One and Only One?

For Husband and Wife ( Day 4 of 18 )
JUST SHARING (from the “
Couple’s Devotional Bible”)
This article’s author: Janis Long Harris
Bible Passage: Numbers 30:1-2

Key Verse: Numbers 30:2

“When a man makes a vow to the Lord or takes an oath to obligate himself by a pledge, he must not break his word but must do everything he said.”

My husband believes in the “one right person” theory of marriage – that God specifically chose me for him, and him for me.

Does God have one – and only one – “right” person in mind for you to marry? When it comes to choosing a spouse, God rarely directs us by sending a vision. But the question changes once we are married. After we commit ourselves to another in marriage, we need to take our vows as seriously as God does. Jesus made it clear that God’s intention is for a husband and a wife to stay together throughout their lives. Even when we marry someone who in retrospect may seem like a “wrong” person, God can redeem our choice.

I’m glad my husband believes that God picked me and only me as the “right one” for him. But what I’m really grateful for is the fact that he’s committed to working things out – even on those days when I seem like the wrong one.


What problems or enticements might tempt you to break your marriage vows?

Affirm to your spouse your commitment to remain together “for as long as you both shall live.”

Additional Scripture Readings: Psalm 15:4; Mark 10:1-9; Ephesians 1:11

Published in: on 7 March 2008 at 12:14 am  Comments (4)  
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Just a Beginning

For Husband and Wife ( Day 3 of 18 )
JUST SHARING (from the “
Couple’s Devotional Bible”)
This article’s author: Susan Alexander Yates
Bible Passage: 2 Chronicles 6:12-21

Key Verse: 2 Chronicles 6:14

“…there is no God like you in heaven or on earth – you who keep your covenant of love with your servants who continue wholeheartedly in your way.”

Marriage is a covenant relationship – not a contract. By covenant, I mean marriage is a permanent commitment. Viewing marriage this way gives us security and freedom. Under covenant, I have a lifetime to learn how to bond together as one with my husband. The “I do” I said on my wedding day was not the culmination of a relationship, but the beginning of a new commitment to work on my relationship with my husband for the rest of my life.

Covenant provides us with the challenge to grow in our marriage. If I’m committed for the long haul, I can either live in solitude, emotionally divorcing myself, or I can build friendship with my husband by working on communication and continuing to discover new things about him.

In a sense, then, covenant encourages me to know my husband – and my husband to know me. And it gives us a lifetime to grow together in deep friendship.


Describe the difference between a covenant and a contract.

Why does a binding agreement like the marriage covenant actually provide a context of freedom for you and your spouse?

Additional Scripture Readings: Malachi 2:13-16; 2 Corinthians 1:20

Published in: on 6 March 2008 at 10:20 am  Comments (2)  
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